Being a mother is a gift that lasts a lifetime. Just as your children evolve, so does motherhood. In honor of Mother’s Day, we sat down with our very own First Lady Serita Jakes to glean wisdom on how to mother our adult children. Whether you’re close to your child or would like to rebuild your relationship, there are valuable truths for everyone in this enlightening conversation:
WTAL: As your children grew into adults, how did you have to redefine motherhood?
Mrs. Jakes: As adulthood daily claims my children, I realize more than ever that their character and faith are built on a solid foundation. I am not saying that neither the fabric nor the seamstress is flawless, but indeed the pattern is perfect.
WTAL: Walk us through how you had to change your parenting style when your children became adults.
Mrs. Jakes: I must admit that I am very intentional about my role as a parent and even more so as a grandparent. When my tykes were younger, they did (allegedly) as they were told. As adults, they form their own guidance system. I am here to ensure and provide sound counsel. Yes, maybe without solicitation.
WTAL: How do you continue to grow your relationship with your children and their partners? What are three things a mother can do to build and maintain a healthy relationship with her adult children?
Mrs. Jakes: If I had to choose three things that build and maintain a healthy flow with my children and their partners, they would be: respect their union, respect their privacy as individuals, and always respect their home.
WTAL: In what ways does motherhood get better when your children become adults?
Mrs. Jakes: When my children became adults, I was enabled to answer their adolescent “whys.” They’re understanding of my “whys” become more apparent to them in hindsight.
WTAL: How do you know when to step in and help your children or let them learn without your guidance? What do you do when you see them making a decision you don’t agree with?
Mrs. Jakes: When my children were young, they went where I allowed them to go (presumably). As adults, that simple task is no longer an option. If they, perchance, lose their way, I keep a lamp burning so that they’ll recognize home.
WTAL: Describe the steps a mother would need to take to heal a fractured relationship with her adult child.
Mrs. Jakes: A card through the mail is a grand invitation to communicate an RSVP to acknowledge a broken relationship. In time, steps will lead to a phone call and, with (TBD) time, develop into a virtual face-to-face encounter. I pray that these tiny appeals result in a healing reunion.
WTAL: What advice would you give to mothers who are looking for purpose now that their children are adults?
Mrs. Jakes: Some of us have waited our childrens’ lifetime to reignite the passion in our hearts. I find something new about myself every day that has little to do with being a mother. I can always be a better me.
WTAL: As an empty nester, what do you like to do for fun and creativity?
Mrs. Jakes: As an empty nester, I find creativity in visiting garden centers. I find peace in our times of rest. I find hope by curating retail shops that reflect serenity, style, and sacred spaces.
WTAL: Being a grandparent is different from being a parent. What advice would you give to first-time grandparents?
Mrs. Jakes: My advice to grandparents is be ready to help your baby hold their baby.
WTAL: Any other advice on motherhood that you’d like to share?
Mrs. Jakes: Retirement from motherhood is not an option for me.
With Mother’s Day just around the corner, many of us are pondering thoughtful ways to celebrate the extraordinary woman in our lives on May 12, 2019. Whether you call her “mama,” “mommy,” “mom,” “ma,” or another mom-related moniker, one thing is sure – she is synonymous with all that is selflessness. With that said, it’s befitting that we offer our best Mother’s Day gift ideas for you to explore. Moreover, while there’s no gift more significant than a mother’s love, the simple act of giving back to her is sure to make her heart smile.
“Thinking about my mother and the many other mothers I know, along with numerous observations and experiences gleaned from other people about their mothers, I think it’s time to pay tribute to these most influential of educators – our mamas.”
– T.D. Jakes, Mama Made The Difference
In no particular order, here’s our list of the 5 Best Mother’s Day Gift Ideas:
1. When Brunch and Art Collide…
From delectable bites at the hottest Spanish eatery to delicious cuisines at the newest Indian bistro, it’s time to take your mom on a brunch date! Whatever flavor she fancies, you can book your brunch reservation using the OpenTable app, or any app of your choice. Weather permitting, this is an excellent opportunity to relax on a rooftop terrace, as you catch up with mom over a delicious brunch spread and her favorite coffee or tea. Then, off to the theater you go. Whether your mom adores ballet or symphonies, this is the time to explore your local arts and entertainment district. So, how’s brunch and a live theater performance for one of the best Mother’s Day gift ideas?
2. Treat Yo’ Self…(Mom, of course)
Imagine the sweet aromatherapy of lavender and magnolia filling the air, as your mom is swept away by a spa experience unparalleled. Our mothers often sacrifice so much for us (and rarely request anything in return). Also, for single moms and/or stay-at-home moms, the duality of their roles often exacerbates the stressors of providing financial, emotional, and mental support to their children. Regardless of the spa day package that you choose, your mom will sincerely appreciate indulging in a rejuvenating experience. As one of the best Mother’s Day gift ideas, every mom deserves to experience a day of pampering at least once!
3. There’s No Place Like Home…
For those of you who prefer a more tangible, insert-gift-inside-giftbag idea, the Serita Jakes Home collection of thoughtfully curated candles is sure to warm your mom’s home and heart this Mother’s Day. The matriarch behind the collection, Lady Serita Jakes is a successful CEO and humanitarian, empowering speaker, devoted wife, and proud mom, among other selfless roles. To this end, it should come as no surprise that she has designed her candle and home décor offerings with timeless accents and exquisite fragrances. When you purchase a candle from the Serita Jakes Home collection, you’re gifting your mom an aroma experience that’s so inviting – you’ll want to reserve a candle for yourself! From water lily and geranium to vetiver and peony, we’re confident that your mom will agree that this is one of the best Mother’s Day gift ideas you could give her.
4. Your New City Awaits…
If you’re feeling adventurous and seeking new sights to explore, taking your mom on a fun-filled day trip could prove beneficial for her spirit (and yours). One of the great perks about this trip is that you get to spend quality time with your mom. Moreover, depending on where the road leads you, you could end up amidst the backdrop of lush greenery and serene waterfalls. To help your mom maximize this trip, be sure to do most of the heavy lifting, including packing nutritious food and beverages, toiletries, picnic blankets, and more, for her. The last thing you want your mom to worry about is whether she has essential road trip items in tow. With the proper planning, this is sure to be one of the best Mother’s Day gift ideas. Once you arrive at your destination of choice, enjoy a bed and breakfast venue, nature trails, local boutiques, and most of all – the company of your mom!
5. Set Your Sights On Woman Thou Art Loosed…
Now you can give the gift of women’s empowerment when you register your mom for the upcoming WTAL Vision 2020 conference in Atlanta, Georgia! If you missed last year’s sold-out WTAL Master Class in Dallas, TX, be sure to secure your seats early for this upcoming WTAL Vision 2020 event. Bishop T.D. Jakes, the visionary and chief architect behind WTAL, is inviting the brightest women from around the world to join him for this women’s conference. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, tech investor, or financial analyst, WTAL Vision 2020 will embolden you to take action and realize your vision! Are you ready to invest in your mom with one of the best Mother’s Day gifts from WTAL? If so, set your sights on this highly anticipated women’s conference and join us when you save your seat today.
Mothers tend to us as young children and help us develop into exceptional women. Mothers are executives, doctors, educators, entrepreneurs, and so much more. Most of all, they are always there for us, cheering from the proverbial sidelines as our greatest supporter and confidante. Whether you grew up under the guidance of your mother, grandmother, or another motherly figure, the wisdom that you gleaned from her is worth its weight in gold!
As a society, we designate one day to recognize our mothers each year. However, we shouldn’t relegate honoring these remarkable women on Mother’s Day; know that every day is a perfect day to celebrate her. For more inspiration, be sure to follow WTAL Vision 2020 via Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter: @MyWTALConf. #WTAL2020
“My mother’s gifts of courage to me were both large and small. The latter are woven so subtly into the fabric of my psyche that I can hardly distinguish where she stops and I begin.”
– Maya Angelou, Mom & Me & Mom
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